Henry on relationships:Letter to Toombs Might 6 1959
“… Sorry to listen to of your son’s unsuccessful marriage. Nevertheless, I feel your perspective in direction of the expertise signifies motherly knowledge. My daughter and her husband each have scorching tempers and dangerous tendencies. Neither of them believes in divorce, however they’ve some horrible disturbances at instances. After I see both of them in a nasty temper and the potential for bother, I excuse myself and go elsewhere. My motto is peace at any worth. I attempt to love everybody and can make most any sacrifice to keep away from an altercation.
Letter to “Spencer” Might 18 1954
“… Hermits are peaceable and reside in full concord however it’s an unnatural life, and I’ve come to consider that to be at ones greatest, one ought to meet and speak to a number of individuals…”
Letter to “Zale” February sixth 1961
“…. I’ve at all times thought that males had the benefit in view of the truth that they’ll do the asking. About all a lady can do is settle for or run away. And as to the girl, issues usually work out that means. Many individuals are excellent companions in the course of the day however flip into monsters at residence. That’s the reason they are saying that you just by no means know somebody till you have got lived with them. Tenting or touring collectively can also be a great way to get to know each side of an individual…”
“… Folks ought to know one another totally earlier than considering of marriage. It’s higher to be single than to get into a multitude. To essentially be an excellent companion one should have achieved the Christian precept of making an attempt at all times to make others comfortable, and to consider the welfare of his or her companions earlier than his personal. The difficulty is that often one individual imposes on the great nature of the opposite.”
And on habit:
Letter to my mom August eighth 1956
“…I used to be very proud to announce that Xxxxx has give up smoking. He mustn’t ever begin once more. If he does, will probably be a lot tougher for him to give up once more. The smoking behavior is like tying a depraved big with twine string. Each time you bind him with one other string he has much less probability to flee. One string doesn’t make a lot distinction (like another cigarette) however when sufficient of them are utilized he’s helpless to interrupt them. It’s the identical with cigarettes, one doesn’t appear vital, however every one binds the person who a lot tighter, and each day it turns into more and more tougher for him to interrupt the behavior. Cigarettes not solely take some huge cash, they’re sure to have an effect on the well being in time.”
~ pictured: Henry constructing his final home, for himself. He’s about 70 years outdated there.
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