Hello Elsa,
I’ve a normal query about working collectively as a pair when your Mars indicators aren’t appropriate.
I’ve a Scorpio Mars. My fiance has a Libra Mars. (He has a Scorpio rising)
We now have considerably totally different approaches in coping with issues and this has precipitated numerous friction. I like being given a process after which independently, going out to do it. As an example, we had mentioned our necessities for transferring into a brand new residence, which I assumed was settled. We agreed that I might then contact our agent with these necessities and get the ball rolling so she might give us an inventory of doable locations to maneuver into.
Once I advised him I used to be going to contact her, he was very stunned! He stated that we hadn’t settled something, and he felt that I used to be slicing him out of the choice making course of. We had already selected the final neighborhood, the variety of rooms & loos, and that we needed good thick partitions (so we wouldn’t hear our neighbors). I didn’t suppose there was far more to debate, particularly not earlier than we gave these parameters to our agent to see what was on the market.
This difficulty comes up time and again. We’ll talk about one thing, I’ll suppose it’s settled, I’ll take steps to finish the duty, after which he throws a wrench in my course of which makes me mad!
How can we resolve this? Is there something happening astrologically?
Gal from Thailand
I’m undecided this can be a Mars drawback, apart from he’s doing one thing (Mars) that pisses (Mars) you off.
If his motive is to piss you off, by agreeing to one thing then un-agreeing, I’d see it as a Mars drawback; extra like an assault. However this doesn’t appear to be the case right here.
It could possibly be a communication difficulty. You suppose one thing is settled, however he thinks you’re nonetheless (Libra) debating. However you say he’s agreed. If so, he received comply with hold his agreements! He ought to have the ability to do that. He has Mercury in Capricorn. I’m nonetheless not satisfied that is it, although.
You’re extra fastened and pointed than he’s. He’s Mutable and Piscean / twelfth houser. This can be the problem. Earlier than doing something drastic, I might attempt a easy repair…
With Mars in Libra, selections don’t come simple. He wants somebody such as you go transfer issues off the fence.
Inform him you want a agency choice so you possibly can act. I might actually get a bodily object… say a glass. When the choice is made, he turns the glass upside-down. You’re each there, you each see it and as soon as this occurs in your relationship, you each stick.
I might name the choice a “dedication” to the thought, as a result of it fits his Mercury. That Mercury is all he’s received to anchor him. Use it!
Good luck!