Numerous years in the past when my son was about twelve years outdated, we have been having hassle speaking. I actually couldn’t hear what my son was saying. Perhaps he talked too quick or he mumbled?  My husband may hear him simply nice so I went to the ear physician for a examine.

I used to be anticipating to be taught I had listening to loss; the ear physician anticipated the identical. We each stunned when my listening to examined good… or fairly, I had no listening to loss or downside. “Actually?” I mentioned.

“Actually,” she mentioned. “I feel your son is messing with you,” she added. I checked out her with my eyes broad.

“What?”

“He could also be enjoying with you. Inform him you went to the physician, your listening to is ok and communication is a two method road”.

Confused and perhaps a bit skeptical, I went house instructed my son what the physician mentioned. He has the household poker face and Mars in Scorpio, so who is aware of?  He additionally has Mercury in Jupiter in Aries, opposing my Mars and Mercury in Libra Household signature, proper. Mars Mercury.  So perhaps this was a joke. If that’s the case it bought performed out.  We haven’t had an issue since.

Right this moment, Mars in Virgo (Mars Mercury combo) is opposing Saturn. Mercury is opposing Pluto and certain sufficient I simply instructed somebody who retains mailing me to STOP. Why? As a result of I don’t perceive their emails. I imply, time and again, I say, “I don’t perceive”.

Now, if it’s because I’m silly, then I’m silly. I’m actually not enjoying round. That is my job right here… I’ll reply to your electronic mail but when I don’t perceive your electronic mail, my response goes to be, “I don’t perceive”. What else may it’s? And when you ship me two or three or 4 extra mails I don’t perceive, they reply gained’t change… nicely, sure it’ll. I’ll ask you to cease emailing me, as a result of what’s the level?

I had one other gal electronic mail me a few report she purchased from me in 2017.  She misplaced it.  She wished me to resend it, which I’d be blissful to do. I didn’t know who she was (no title) however I had the e-mail so I searched my despatched mails and in addition my orders on the backend of the positioning – nothing.

I instructed her I couldn’t discover her order and he or she grew to become irate. Mainly, by no means thoughts you pos! I wrote again, stating I didn’t know who she was; if I had her title, I may search… nicely you get the thought.  It’s extra essential, I be a registered-in-the-courthouse, bitch, due to this.

In distinction, I had a consumer yesterday, on the fly for certain. Her preliminary electronic mail was arduous to parse so I requested for clarification earlier than I did the work, after making the improper assumption. She apologized and clarified.

I did a part of the session, leaving time to come back again.  She got here again and didn’t like my work.  She was measured however it was nonetheless like, wtf is that this?  She has Mars squaring 4 planets in Scorpio, together with Pluto so you possibly can think about. I understood how she felt.

I completed the session, clarifying my message and explaining why I wrote what I did, fairly than what she felt she requested for? This ended very well. VERY WELL. So it’s not the warmth that causes an issue. Communication actually is a two-way road.

I’ve one other consumer, we get on the cellphone and yell at one another.  That is our personalities, but additionally, I’ve a couple of consumer that yells, fact be instructed!  That is additionally nice.  Some individuals get fired up after they’re speaking about one thing that’s taking place to them; that is completely comprehensible.  Yell on the cellphone, I gained’t bat an eye fixed. You sound like my sister or my husband or one thing, so no downside!

One other state of affairs – an individual will always probe me. I reply however they actually don’t like something I say. My message is rejected, misunderstood or twisted… one thing. What’s the purpose of this? I imply, I’m fairly mutable and there’s no doubt I attempt. If my responses are unsatisfying, why proceed to solicit them?

I feel that is the proper day to consider these things.  Communication and bounds, principally.  Backside line, when you’re having trough speaking, the issue could also be in your finish.

Do you’re feeling you’re a superb communicator? The place’s your Mercury?