I’ve been speaking about being the one to “maintain the knife”. I don’t notice I’m speaking in code. Right here’s the foundation of this…

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I’m usually requested about this sequence of posts relating to using different individuals’s adverse vitality. I wrote this ten years in the past but it surely’s the form of factor that may by no means go stale. If nothing else, you must know that folks like me are out right here. We exist!

Hello Elsa,

Awhile again I learn some recommendation you gave relating to betrayal. You wrote about the concept if somebody stabs you within the again, that knife is yours to maintain ceaselessly. Now I’ve been pondering this, however have but to determine it out fully. Would you thoughts enlightening me a bit extra with increasing on why protecting the knife is seen as useful?

A Reader

Nice query, thanks. Generally I say these items understanding they’re house truths however not understanding nobody is aware of what I’m speaking about!

First, I didn’t specify “again”. It has nothing to do with being stabbed within the again. I’m speaking about being stabbed, interval. When somebody stabs you, there may be an vitality change. If somebody hits you, identical factor. If somebody oppresses you in any means they’re supplying you with vitality. If somebody kisses you, identical factor. In the event that they yell at you or if they provide you a gift, they’re transferring their vitality to you and on the level the vitality is yours and due to this fact it’s yours to make use of.

I maintain that vitality is impartial till directed. So when this individuals lashes out, you now have their vitality and what you do with it’s fully as much as you. For the document, I realized this by being stabbed!  Somebody stabbed me once I was 15 years previous and I pulled the knife out of my arm and simply seemed on the man like this: “What do you assume you’re doing, idiot? Who do you assume you’re stabbing, you fool? Me?”

So take into consideration that. He’s bought all this rage and he sticks a knife in me. I instantly neutralized his vitality. It was like a hard-on gone delicate. I’m certain I checked out him as if to say, “Strive that once more and I’ll kill you.” He didn’t stab me once more.

It’s years later and I personal that knife. Don’t you assume? Who has the knife? Me? Or him? And don’t you assume I’m only a tad fearless courtesy that have?

So that’s what I did with that vitality versus letting it crush me. Versus spending the subsequent twenty years in abusive relationships, getting re-victimized. However let me come again with one other instance, not so excessive. As a result of this phenomena occurs on daily basis throughout you and if you will get hip to this, the advantages are limitless.

Are you adept at remodeling adverse vitality? Inform us.

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