Venus Pluto pertains to what I name “corpses”. These are individuals and issues, lifeless in your life, that come again to hang-out. (Search “step away from the corpse” on this weblog).

Below the inconjunct, I’ve observed individuals displaying up with a narrative; their view of what transpired between the 2 of you. Onerous to say if the particular person believes it, deeply, however if you dwell with the story for years and  even many years in some circumstances, it tends to harden off as “actual”.  Then the particular person exhibits up, considering you’ve the identical view they’ve. That is ridiculous.

Not solely are individuals going to make their very own judgements and kind their very own opinions, it’s attainable they’ve not considered you in any respect.  However what kills me is the individuals who mistreat an individual, usually in methods which can be egregious. Then they present up, able to go once more and also you’re like, whaaaaaaaaat?

I suppose all our reminiscences are selective.  However I simply don’t perceive burning a bridge, then attempting to stroll throughout it ten years later.

Right here’s one other factor to think about…

Whenever you’ve been gone from an individual’s life for 5 or ten or twenty years, it’s apparent they will dwell with out you. It doesn’t matter who you might be or what you may need meant to them at one time. It doesn’t matter how devastated they may have been, method again when. The particular person survived and maybe went on the thrive, so who’re you to them now?

I noticed this when my husband and I (who met as teenagers) acquired again collectively after being separated for greater than 20 years. The one cause we had been in a position to do that, is we did one another no hurt once we had been youngsters.

Effectively, we broke one another’s hearts, but it surely was on account of stupidity and immaturity. We didn’t act with malice, to attempt to destroy the opposite particular person.  So perhaps it is a cautionary story.

When you’re going to get you’re knife, stick somebody with it, twist it, viciously, then don’t be silly sufficient to suppose they’re going to overlook who you might be and what you’re able to and be glad to see you, down the street.

Acquainted story anybody?