Pricey Elsa,

My final critical relationship grew out of a friendship.  After two years, we all of a sudden realized we have been in love with one another. This relationship ended abruptly after simply eight months, when he determined it had gotten too critical.  

A few yr later, I began courting one other man.  We’ve solely been courting for about three months, and often by now I’ve fallen in love – up to now I’ve fallen fairly quick!  However whereas generally I am keen on my new beau, there are occasions I really feel fairly indifferent from him.  

I’m involved about these emotions. Typically I really feel that I ought to know immediately and have robust emotions like I did in my final relationship.  However I additionally notice that it took two years for these emotions to develop out of our friendship.

Is my detachment on account of fears of being harm once more… or is he really not the one for me?

Thanks,
Uncertain Lover

Pricey Uncertain Lover,

You’re indifferent in relationship by your nature. You’re commitment-phobic! I don’t imply that in a nasty method. I’m commitment-phobic myself.

Individuals with Venus tied up with Uranus of their chart are susceptible to sudden sights – relationships that begin on a dime. It’s all very thrilling after which BAM. They finish the identical method they begin, instantly. “Whoops, modified my thoughts! I’m out of right here!”

Individuals who function this fashion discover one another as a result of they’ve one thing in widespread. They don’t wish to be tied down! They work either side of this – and you’ve got. Typically you detach. Typically the opposite individual does it for you, however the consequence is similar. You’re FREE! And that is what you actually need.

There’s an important astrologer, Stephen Arroyo, who writes about this side in his ebook, “Relationships and Life Cycles: Astrological Patterns of Private Expertise”. He as soon as arrange follow close to a army base and seven out of the ten ladies he noticed have Venus tied to Uranus of their chart. Know why? As a result of these ladies have been free from their husband for seven months a yr! PERFECT! Excellent, if you happen to’re wired this fashion, that’s.

So simply take into consideration this. You hook up with somebody and right here comes the day-in-day-out drudgery of all of it. Is that basically for you? I’m undecided it’s. Venus/ Uranus loves on-and-off relationships and relationship with “associates”. Distance is the purpose. And freedom.

You are able to do something you need, however getting a acutely aware grip on what you need in a relationship might be an excellent place to start out .

Good luck

Are you making an attempt to beat your commitment-phobia?